Teddi Mellencamp is revealing more details about past struggles in her marriage with Edwin Arroyave.
The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills alum recently appeared on The Jamie Kern Lima Show podcast, where she said that Edwin had an affair in the past during their marriage. “Yeah, it was with somebody I knew,” she said about the alleged affair. “And I mean, I’m not saying that I didn’t make huge mistakes in my marriage post that, but that broke me.”
She admitted that she found out about the affair around the time that she joined the cast of RHOBH in Season 8, when the person that Edwin had allegedly cheated on her with called her and told her about it. “I had to beg Edwin to want to stay with me. I had to beg him,” she recalled. “I don’t think he was in love with me at that point. I think we’ve gone through times in our marriage where we’ve been madly in love with each other. But that wasn’t one of those times.”Â
“And there was a while that I thought maybe I’ll leave. And then it got better,” she admitted.
Where does Teddi Mellencamp stand with Edwin Arroyave today?
Years later, Teddi and Edwin filed for divorce in November 2024. Together they share three kids and were married for more than a decade before they announced their split. Currently, their divorce is on “hold,” given Teddi’s current battle with Stage 4 cancer. During the podcast, she admitted that she doesn’t know how to label their marriage or what to call Edwin.
“Well, I don’t know what to call it,” she said. “What do you call it when you’re on a divorce, and then somebody gets cancer, almost passes away, so then you have to put it on hold. Hold? Hold sounds worse than a break. There’s no good answer. I mean, I could just say husband, but then people are like, ‘You’re married?’ Well, yes, but.”
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Teddi Mellencamp addresses alleged rumors with her “horse trainer”
Teddi also opened up about the rumors that she had an alleged relationship with her “horse trainer.” “Can you talk about this, this was everywhere in the press, so the horse trainer?” podcast host, Jamie Kern Lima, asked Teddi.
Teddi admitted that she had never talked about those rumors because of her kids. “And I’ve never wanted anybody to have, you know, a guarantee whether it happened or didn’t happen,” she explained.
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“But what I can say is, did I do things that hurt other people? Yes. To this day, does it still hurt my heart? And I wonder that’s why I got cancer? Yes,” she continued. “I think it’s my payback. So nothing goes without payment, I guess.”
“But, yeah, that entire however long it was, that it was all over the press, it was everywhere,” she explained. “And you know, you’re trying to minimize everyone’s pain, you end up maximizing it.”
How Edwin Arroyave is supporting Teddi Mellencamp amid her cancer journey
Teddi has gone through so much since getting diagnosed with melanoma. But, in late July, Teddi took to Instagram where she revealed that she is “feeling better and not taking it for granted.”
In April, Edwin took to his podcast, The Eds, where he shared how he has been supporting Teddi and her health as they also navigate their divorce. “It’s been six months…and a little dark valley that I’m going through,” he admitted. “It’s funny because it’s not just in my personal life; it’s been with my business. When it rains, it pours, but you gotta continue to push forward.”
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“We’ll see what happens with time,” he added. “For right now, it’s just more, ‘How do we take care of you [Teddi], and how do we get back to normal as fast as possible?’ That other stuff, you know, will figure itself out.”
See photos from Teddi and Edwin’s reunion for their daughter, Slate, in June.
