Hailey Glassman’s “lavender marriage” to husband Rubin was in a major gray area on The Real Housewives of New York City Season 16 when she opened up about feeling unhappy in their “unconventional” relationship after 15 years together.
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Sitting down with castmate Sai De Silva in Episode 10 of RHONY, Hailey shared, “I’m very comfortable in my life and I’m deeply grateful for Rubin, but I’m, like, deeply unsatisfied,” adding, “I need to make a change.”
As for what was holding her back, she continued, “I’m scared. Like, I’m scared of, like, what’s on the other end, because it’s like the grass isn’t always greener. … I just hit a point after 15 years, like, am I gonna leave or stay? Like, I love Rubin. I’ve known him our whole life. But, like, I’m not that happy.”
In a confessional, Hailey noted that “love is a complicated thing,” reiterating, “I love Rubin; he’s my family. And he’s been the most reliable family member I’ve ever had. But I’ve never gotten to just see what I want. I have never dated.”
Is Hailey Glassman planning on leaving her husband, Rubin?
As of RHONY‘s Nov. 10 episode, Hailey was unsure of what the future held for her and her husband. “I don’t know if I’m leaving Rubin or staying,” she said. “Like, I just don’t know.”
Despite her uncertainty, Hailey said that if she were to divorce Rubin, she would want to keep their split as amicable as possible. “I’m not asking for money,” she told Sai. “I want to be happy.”
Hailey added in a confessional, “It’s hard to have the courage to completely torch your life at, like, 40 and start all over again. But sometimes it’s just worth it. Because I don’t want to turn around at 60 and say coulda, woulda, shoulda, and now I am at 60.”
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Why was Hailey Glassman “unsatisfied” in her marriage to Rubin?
As Hailey explained on RHONY, she felt that she’d matured and slipped into a more parental role in her marriage to Rubin. “I hit a point where I could keep doing this,” she explained to Sai. “But I take care of him in, like, more of like a mother-son situation. Like, I need more of a partner that, like, helps me. The only difference in 15 years is that I’ve gotten older and, like, I’ve changed, and he’s stayed the same.”
She added, “I want to be good with him and I value, like, our friendship. ‘Cause when I was really low going through dark stuff back then, he’s a lot, but he was always, like, innocently there for me. And I feel like… I love him. But, like, it’s not the right partner for me, long term.”
Clarifying on The Real Housewives of New York City After Show how Rubin had been there for her and made her feel “safe” in the aftermath of her highly publicized relationship with Jon Gosselin, Hailey echoed that sentiment.
“I do have so much love for Rubin. I love Rubin. He’s my family,” she said. “But here I am, you know, middle age and it’s just what worked back then and what I needed is not what I need know. I’ve grown. The difference is he’s stayed the same.”
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Hailey Glassman imagines her single life without Rubin
Sai, meanwhile, asked what would be next for Hailey if she did pull the trigger on separating from Rubin.
“If I do leave him, I want to see what’s out there and I want to date around and see,” she said. “I don’t even know what it’s like to date. Like, I went from, like, that whole situation with Jon to Rubin. I’ve never been single.”
Further addressing her interest in potentially dating as a single woman, Hailey concluded on the RHONY After Show, “I am open. I would love to, like, see what I like. I don’t even know. I’m at a point, like I don’t even know.”
As the drama continues to unfold on RHONY, find out how Hailey addressed rumors that she broke up a marriage in the past.
