Tamra Judge opened up with new details on problems in her longtime marriage to Eddie Judge during The Real Housewives of Orange County Season 20, Episode 9, and revealed that “divorce” even came up during an off-camera fight between the two.
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“There’s a wall up, and it’s starting to scare me,” Tamra admitted during RHOC’s Sept. 3 episode.
She then recalled: “We got into a fight about six months ago. We were in Big Bear, and the entire trip we were just arguing about stupid things. And we were driving home, and he just looked at me, and he goes, ‘I think it’s time to file for divorce.’ So, that scared me.”
Adding to their issues, a flashback during the Sept. 3 episode showed that both Tamra and Eddie were concerned about their lacking sex life.
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“Is our sex life bad?” Tamra asked him during the flashback, and he answered bluntly, “It’s not great, but it’s not bad.”
Tamra then assured him, “The last thing I want is us to get divorced,” and he asked, “Because we’re not having sex every day?”
Tamra, however, clarified that their issues were “a matter of connection.”
When the couple hashed out their communication and intimacy troubles during a romantic hotel getaway, Eddie pointed out, “One of the challenges that I have is you don’t tell me what you need.”
Tamra conceded “deep conversations” were “missing” from their marriage. “I know that I’m like a really hard, tough person, and I don’t give a lot emotionally,” she admitted in a confessional interview. “And maybe I’m the problem.”
But, Tamra announced her intent to fight for her marriage. “I can’t let this marriage go. He’s such a good man, and it just feels like we need to get this connection back,” she added.
What happened between Tamra Judge and Eddie Judge?
Tamra shed new light on the timeline for issues in her marriage to Eddie during the Sept. 3 episode of RHOC. “Our relationship has been so easy up until about a year ago. And I feel like we are now roommates,” she said in a confessional.
Of their lacking sex life — and her own lacking sex drive — Tamra opened up to Emily Simpson and Gina Kirschenheiter with her concerns, and admitted she went to a doctor to get her blood work checked. “I honestly think that menopause is something that’s not talked about enough,” Tamra said, and connected it to her problems in the bedroom with Eddie. “I think it’s one of those things, where, you turn 50 and you’re fighting with the hormones, and, you know, things are going on in your head.”
To get back her intimacy with Eddie, Tamra shared her plans to have “a night of seduction” during an oceanside hotel getaway. “Now is the time where, kids are gone, we should be doing it all the time…or, at least once a week,” she pointed out to Emily and Gina.
To producers, Tamra added, “I’m trying new things. I’m trying to spice this s—t up!”
As Eddie and Tamra enjoyed their getaway, Eddie agreed it was important to make time for their marriage. “The bottom line is, we need time where we can focus on each other,” he told her.
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Are Tamra Judge and Eddie still together today?
Yes. Tamra stated during a July 2026 interview with Bravo Insider that she and Eddie are now in a much better place in their marriage, as she called them “best friends.”
“We get along. We have fun,” Tamra added. “We have our little arguments once in a while. We get over them, but we do everything together. We’re always together.”
Tamra and Eddie also celebrated their 13th wedding anniversary in June, as Tamra posted snapshots of their big day on Instagram with the caption, “Lucky 13…cheers to 13 years of love, laughter, and everything in between. Our wedding day was perfect, and 13 years later, I’d do it all over again.”
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