As Nia Sanchez Booko and Danny Booko continued to navigate marriage and parenting struggles on The Valley, their “friction” throughout the San Diego cast trip culminated with a fourth-wall-breaking argument during which they both sternly reminded each other that they were wearing mics.
On The Valley After Show for Season 3, Episode 8, Nia and Danny broke down their multiple spats on the group’s getaway, in addition to sharing updates on where they stand as a married couple today.
“One thing with me and Daniel, in our relationship in general, yes, we have tense moments; yes, we can be short with each other,” Nia acknowledged, adding later, “Sometimes we’re in this beautiful season where, like, everything is really good, and sometimes it’s not. And what people will see through this, like, window of time is, like, there were so many tense moments, and we were short with each other and had short fuses a lot.”
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The mom of four went on to caution viewers against reading too much into their onscreen fights, however.
“That doesn’t mean that we have a bad relationship,” Nia insisted. “It just means that we were having hard moments. And we’ll keep working on it, because we’re in it for the long run. And we’ve been together for a long time. And we know that those moments don’t define our entire relationship.”
Nia Sanchez Booko details her and Danny Booko’s relationship “resets”
One way that Nia and Danny bounce back from tense moments in their marriage is by doing what she described as relationship “resets.”
“We do resets often enough, a few days ago even,” Nia shared on the After Show. “Like, a few months ago, we had a big reset, and even just a few days ago.”
As for how those “resets” work, she elaborated, “We both, like, sat down in a room. We had a babysitter, so we could, like, step away together for the few moments we have together without kids crawling on us, and we both went, like, ‘This is hard again. Like, this is not easy right now, and, like, what can we do to come back to, like, feeling that, like, in-love feeling, and what can we do to reset our relationship?'”
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Even though a snippet from an earlier conversation on The Valley about her feeling “overwhelmed” in her life as a wife and mother ended with Danny cracking a joke about their sex life, Nia clarified that their full discussion was actually more productive than viewers might realize.
“It was a 45-minute conversation where he was extremely supportive, as he always is when I’m having postpartum struggles,” she said. “That’s always been our dynamic. And, like, he kind of jokes, and I’m like, maybe, maybe not.”
Danny Booko revisits his and Nia Sanchez Booko’s drama in San Diego
Danny, separately, chimed in to echo his wife’s sentiments, pointing out that, after a decade of marriage, they were more than capable of balancing their roles as spouses and parents after welcoming their youngest child, Adelaide, in June 2025.
“This is number four,” Danny emphasized. “You think I haven’t done this three other times? I know exactly how to support my wife.”
Amid their argument that broke the fourth wall during The Valley‘s May 20 episode, Danny also explained to a producer, “We’re a team. Like, this isn’t how we operate. We don’t have these conversations, not when we’re around other people. Like, we do this in private.”
Before returning to their new home in Santa Clarita the next morning, the couple unpacked the drama, and Danny conceded that he wasn’t talking to Nia “in the right tone,” citing how he’d gotten caught up in his “competitive” nature amid the cast’s drag pageant. “I feel embarrassed by it,” he told her. “I’m really sorry. I apologize again.”
As Danny concluded in a confessional, “I took it too far.”
As they continue to work on their relationship, get more details on Danny and Nia’s earlier clashes on The Valley‘s San Diego cast trip.
